We all hide. We show some aspects of ourselves to the world, but we take others and we hold them close, hidden to the world at large…some aspects hidden even to those with whom we are close.
I go through life assume that I only see about 1/8 of everyone I meet–one slice of who they are. That’s what, I think, most of us show to the world. As I get to now people, I get more slices, and I share more of my own. We all hide and share aspects of who we really are in different ways within different relationships.
As we get to know people more, we see more of their slices–we share more of ours.
But I also assume that I really only know 7/8 of most people. I think most of us keep that one slice to ourselves, even with some of those with whom we are closest. Not wanting to share it. Wanting to keep it private. For myriad reasons.
Having parts of ourselves that are private and hidden isn’t a bad thing. It’s being human. But we also need to be ware that we don’t keep too much private. That we share what is appropriate, and don’t bury ourselves away from the world because of whatever reasons we are hesitant to share. Sharing forges relationships.
And yet, it’s ok to have some secrets, I think. It all comes back to balance.