When we are able to forgive someone, when we allow ourselves to forgive, it can help to heal us. Forgiving does not always mean fixing the relationship–in fact, sometimes it means the exact opposite. But to forgive is to enable ourselves to take the power away from the other–away from the action that hurt us. To remove the hurt and the anger and to accept that what happened is over and cannot be changed and move towards healing.
We cannot control anyone other than ourselves. We cannot force another to forgive us. But we can allow ourselves to forgive others. Even if they don’t ask. Even if they don’t much care. Because forgiving, truly forgiving, is an internal process–not an outward act.