There is so much pressure on us to always act like we are ok. To smile despite inward turmoil. To grin, even when we are hurting–mentally, physically, emotionally. To pretend that we are doing just fine–even when we feel anything but fine.
And yes, that can be helpful. Sometimes, by choosing happiness we are able to experience happiness. But, sometimes, it should be ok to not be ok. To admit that we’re worried or stressed or sad or in pain. To let people know that today, we aren’t really doing all that well. We shouldn’t have to always pretend.
It is ok to be in our feelings–to admit to pain that we feel. To allow ourselves to feel it. We don’t have to smush it down and pretend it doesn’t exist–that doesn’t make it go away. And it doesn’t mean that we are automagically ok. We can hurt sometimes–it’s part of life. It’s part of the human experience.
I find at those moments when I admit to those with whom I’m close enough to admit these things, that they are grateful to learn that they aren’t the only ones. And, even though we might put on a public face of being ok–and act like the world is all full of only the wonderful–it’s important to recognize the face that is underneath, as well. And to know that the person we are looking at–they may be acting, as well.